As long as you and your partner(s) take the time to review and discuss your desires and boundaries so everyone can give their informed, enthusiastic consent, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to get down with DD/lg. It doesn’t require a bunch of whips and chains and ball gags-just enthusiastic consent and some good old-fashioned imagination. The DD/lg dynamic can be a fun and relatively accessible way to play with kink between consenting adult partners. “It's really important to establish boundaries around the age you're comfortable playing and what feels safe and fun for your dynamic in terms of expectations, behavior, and discipline,” Criss says. You should factor in how age play might be involved in the scene and get clear about what that looks like for you. “Though physical safety is always important in kink, reconstructing our ideas of mental safety is also important before engaging in DD/lg,” she says.
Everyone needs to feel safe within the dynamic for it to work.
Karsh notes that setting boundaries and rules before you play is also key.